Telling yourself that you are going to be okay helps.
disclaimer: i am far from a psychologist or anything similar so some things might sound ridiculous but i am just trying to describe how i feel and share my opinions on things. i hope some of you can relate & get helped. :-)
Life is an unpredictable layers of weirdness. That fact often leads my head to think more than it should. My brain will start to predict the unpredictable. It will start creating scenarios of what might and might not happen, starting from the ones that have 99% chance of happening to the ones that have no chance of happening at all. All of these possibilities run in my head and are based on something called assumption.
I honestly often let some of these thoughts—specifically the good ones—run in my head in order to escape reality. I call them fantasy. They can be wildly ashtonizing. I can spend minutes staring to nothingness—while I should have been taking a bath—because of these thoughts.
Meanwhile, I have troubles forbiding the bad ones from haunting myself. I tend to let them destroy my day instead of controlling them. They crawl around like this poisonous gas that kills all of my brain cells and makes me lose my sense. Even sometimes it also interferes in the best fantasy that I am having in my head. And when that happens, I often think that it is just reality that finally hits me and brings me back to the sad truth—that things are not as smooth as I think—while actually, my head is manipulating me by hiding the actual fact and changing it into something worse and negative.
So my conclusion is sometimes humans tend to accept what their heads are saying more when it is negative rather than when it is positive. I am not sure about the reason—or if it’s even a right theory or not—but I think it can be very variative. One of them might be because we’re afraid to just accept the positive because it might be a false hope and we don’t want to be disappointed.
A little message that you can take from this is that telling yourself that you’re going to be okay helps. It really does. So just take a little moment from whatever thoughts you are suffering from and tell yourself that everything is going to be okay. It really is.
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